Do you run around in your life with your hair on fire worrying? Do you think you think way too much, sometimes? Why worry? About 83% of your daily conversation is the good or bad talking you give yourself inside your own skull. When you talk negatively to yourself, by asking yourself impossible riddles that are worry-conducive, these unanswerable riddles will riddle your confidence and self-esteem. So the point of this article is to teach you how to disrupt negative thoughts on the fly that ground your attempts to soar as a positive person.
ARE YOU UNINTENTIONALLY LOWERING OR RAISING YOUR CONFIDENCE LEVEL?
I worry too much.
I must like driving myself nuts!
I re-hash my decisions…until I confuse myself.
I think too much.
I let people get away with murder. I’m too darn nice.
I question whether or not I did the right thing.
I’m probably being too cautious in the face of criticism.
I doubt myself and change horses in mid-stream.
I question if I’m destined to be a negative person.
I should be more disciplined and assertive.
I hate feeling sorry for myself but I feel at such a loss.
I wonder if I will make the same relationship mistakes again.
I ought to stop thinking about these things but I can’t seem to stop.
I dwell on the negative WAY TOO MUCH!
WHO ME, WORRY? NOTHING BAD’S GOING TO HAPPEN, ANYWAY
Well, you get the idea. You can worry about what you did, what you’re doing or how you’re going to manage an uncertain future. Your logical-emotional thinking than spins out of your control, as you worry…worry…and worry some more in ineffective ways that make you feel insecure and unsure of taking creative or novel positive actions that will net nifty results.
DISRUPTING NEGATIVE YOUR THINKING
Talking sense to yourself is pretty easy to do…just you try it and find out for yourself. Typically, negative thoughts escalate negative emotions which fuel increased negative thinking which de-rails your confidence and makes you rail against yourself for being so darn easy to manipulate! Here’s a quick course on interrupting repetitive negative thoughts that lead to nowhere:
1. Listen to the inner-personal chatter that chips away at your self-confidence.
2. Isolate one negative thought to disrupt. Example: “Why do I think too much?” or “Why do I always have to be SO negative?”
3. Disrupt the question-doubting question by decisively talking assertively to yourself.
4. Answer assertively: “This is a riddle that leads to nowhere. I’m not going to bug myself with questions that have no answer. I choose not to back myself into a corner of worrying! Let’s change this damn worry record!”
5. Pat yourself on the back, by saying: “I am in charge of my own mind. I’m not going to trash my self-confidence by talking nonsense to myself right now.”
IF AT FIRST YOU DON’T SUCCEED…TRY, TRY DOING SOMETHING DIFFERENT
Inner-personal talk tools really work well. Negative thoughts that riddle your self-esteem are simply bad habits that you can disrupt with a little practice and chutzpah. The results of negative inner chatter are the same for you and me: namely, worrying lowers your self-esteem…while the results of assertive self-talk protects your prized self-esteem and relationships…all the while still being genuine and responsive in the face of defeats.
Talk some sense to yourself today…you can do it! Just you try it and see.