Never Let Them See You Sweat

NEVER LET THEM SEE YOU SWEAT

Empathizers are criticized for getting their feelings hurt too easily and for staying hurt for too long. Are you able to stop caring and become indifferent when you’re dwelling too much on how someone did you wrong, making you feel unwell? Listen up. There’s a season and reason to be insensitive!

DON’T GIVE AWAY YOUR POWER

Empathizers can learn to present a front of self-control and confidence which Instigators value.  If you’re a sensitive E-type, how do you let water roll off your back like a duck?

To help out their E-type counterparts, I-types would advise Insensitivity Training via self-talk tools of this type…

  • Just don’t react
  • Don’t throw a fit
  • Don’t do what they think you’re going to do
  • Never let them see you sweat
  • Don’t dwell…be well
  • Don’t give away your power
  • Don’t react in the same manner that you’re being treated
  • Ignore the person
  • Stop thinking about it
  • Control what you can…accept what you don’t have power to influence

DON’T DWELL…BE WELL

These “be strong” messages take the focus off thinking…thinking…thinking about the other person, and puts the focus back on helping yourself get mentally fit.

THERE’S NO BETTER BEING TO BE, THAN BEING YOURSELF

Human beings are feeling machines. Empathizers ding themselves for being so emotionally alive. What’s all the fuss? When, my dear Empathizer, you’re dwelling on how someone has hurt your feelings – change the channel – dwell on being well.

“Talk Doc” Dennis O’Grady provides relationship help, family business consulting, and TALK2ME© positive and effective communication training for teams.

Exhibiting Empathy

EXHIBITING EMPATHY

What if you’re an Instigator husband who has miffed his Empathizer wife by neglecting her wants and wishes? In the TALK2ME© system, Instigators win big when they adopt the Empathy Factor, which is so prevalent among Empathizer communicators. How do you respond in a nurturing way, even when there isn’t much time to do so?

USE THE EMPATHY FACTOR TO PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR PARTNER

Empathy is defined as identification with and understanding of another’s situation, feelings, and motives. If you have been there, done that, then you can be empathetic. To convey your empathy to your conversation partner:

  • Be quiet in your mind – don’t allow your mind to spin a million miles an hour
  • Do unto others, as you would like others to do unto you
  • Pay attention to what you’re seeing and hearing
  • Respond – walk in the shoes of your partner
  • Demonstrate empathy to others
  • Show you care
  • Don’t worry
  • Listen more

THE EMPATHY GOLDEN RULE

No, the Empathy Golden Rule isn’t, “He who has the gold, rules.” What is the impact of empathizing with an Empathizer spouse? “It makes me feel special and appreciated when you help out on little things.”

The relationship results? Happiness. Thankfulness. Time savings. Laughter. Deep appreciation…all well-worth the effort of a tiny little, “I understand.”

“Talk Doc” Dennis O’Grady provides relationship help, family business consulting, and TALK2ME© positive and effective communication training for teams.