There seems to be some confusion concerning psychotherapy (counseling) and relationship communication training. Relationship communication training is:
Not needed due to differences of gender, as was thought in the past. After much research and testing, we now know that gender has nothing to do with differences in communication styles or abilities.
Not medical psychotherapy, but an educational process
Not for those with emotional illness or mental health diagnoses
Not a passive listening approach followed by, “Well, so what do you think?”
Not a nondirective counseling approach
Not a problem-focused or “complaining” approach
For normal people who are experiencing the frustration of miscommunication
A process utilizing several approaches:
- interactive–don’t plan to just sit and listen
- common sense–anyone can implement these strategies
- solutions-focused–don’t dwell on the past problems; how do you get what you want and where do you want to go?
- results-driven–focus on what you want your life to be like when sessions are completed
- interactive, directive recommendations–yes, homework will be assigned to all session participants
Your effective relationship communication training also incorporates:
- A process by which new talk habits are taught
- A time during which talk goes back-and-forth in a directive (not indirective) fashion
- Focusing on the thinking person who values improving the self and key relationships
- Meetings characterized by strategies which are productive, fast-moving, and enjoyable
- A time during which mistakes in communication are carefully and caringly pointed out by the communications coach for the communications client
- Discussions characterized by positive and non-blaming interaction – blame games are not allowed
- Finding out your communicator type and the communicator type of your partner, and having them explained in useful ways to promote good talk habits
- Teaching you tailored talk tools which can get you and your relationship out of the rut you may be stuck in
- An interactive session during which you receive good advice and talk strategies that work to produce positive results
- A program in which effective communication tools are specifically designed and tailored for you
- Talk tools which are beneficial to each partner, while the relationship understanding improves, strengthening the partners’ bond
WHO OWNS YOUR RECORDS?
Since relationship communication training clients are on a private pay plan, no insurance records are kept, and no personal information is held by outside doctors, insurance companies, or other parties, unless you make such a request. Dr. Dennis O’Grady, the developer of the Talk to Me© system, will personally work with you in a one-to-one situation, unless you opt for others to be present, such as in a couples situation. Coach O’Grady is available to you by e-mail and phone on a same-day basis, to help you work through problems you encounter along the way. Learning in sessions is reinforced in the free weekly communication articles at www.drogrady.com.
HOW MANY SESSIONS WILL YOU NEED?
Following positive results in the initial office setting, more than 50% of our clients want to learn the Talk to Me© system to use independently in their own lives. After the first evaluation session, you will know how and why this powerful new communication system will work for you. Typically, a client will need from 3 to 6 meetings to learn and practice the new communication strategies. What does and doesn’t work to improve communication is pointed out in an upbeat manner during role play and demonstration situations in the office setting.
CAN I LEARN THE TALK TO ME SYSTEM ON MY OWN?
This practical relationship approach is published in the self-improvement book Talk to Me: Communication Moves To Get Along With Anyone. The system is educational – when you implement the communication strategies you learn, your goals will become easier to reach. Over half of our communications clients simply want results, and the increase in their outcome measures demonstrate that they are getting the results they set out to realize.
WHO IS DENNIS E. O’GRADY, PSY.D.?
Dennis specializes in personal and business relationship communication and is the originator and pioneer of the clinically proven Talk to Me© communication system.
He is nationally recognized communications psychologist and is the author of three cutting-edge books. He currently serves as the president-elect of the Dayton Psychological Association.
Dennis teaches that in the past, miscommunication was thought to be due to differences of gender. But, with research and testing, that theory has been disproved. He clinically researched the effectiveness of his unique communication approach for 470 different relationship combinations. Focusing on results that are fast and which last, Dennis’s common-sense approach produces “the light bulb went on” effect. He prefers communications clients who want to help themselves, those who ordinarily handle stress well. These clients want to know how things work well and why.
More about Dr. O’Grady’s 30+ years experience as a doctoral-level licensed professional psychologist can be examined at www.drogrady.com. As an aside, the “Psy.D.” degree designation stands for “Doctor of Psychology,” which is both “practical practice” and “academic theory” centered.