I hear it every day from clients I coach in communication skills… “I’m spooked because great things are happening so fast. I wasn’t struggling at all, and I was in a peaceful zone. When’s the other shoe going to drop?” The fear of success ending abruptly, or embarrassing failures lasting forever, haunt some of the best people I know. It doesn’t have to be that way.
MY MIND IS MORE FREE, CAREFREE AND FOCUSED USING THE TALK TO ME COMMUNICATION SYSTEM
There is also a terrible irony to the combustible mix of fear and success. You can be a big success and still screw up big time. For example, a respected and esteemed executive coaching client of mine — let’s call him Dick — recently asked me:
“Good things are happening. I now know what the dynamic is behind that…it’s my better understanding of my communicator leadership subtype. Now, Dennis, how can I better handle the success that’s unfolding? I’m watching the company blossom right before my very eyes. We’ll reach and FAR exceed targeted expectations. If I’m not careful, though, I’m going start panicking and shoot myself in the foot or trip others up with my lip.”
Your mind is a terrible thing to misplace. You don’t want to panic when times are great or when times are grim! And who says executive leaders with big egos and dreams can’t learn to become sensitive communicators?
INVENTERS ARE GENIUSES AT INVENTING RESULTS
Why is this savvy business leader able to produce powerful results that appear almost magically? Well, here’s why: Dick’s leader subtype is called “Inventer.” Inventers make up about 20% of our population. They are enormously able to PRODUCE POWERFUL RESULTS, positive or negative, for good or ill. When focus is lost, Inventers can become destroyers.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOU’RE AN INVENTER LEADER? ARE YOU ABLE TO MAKE PEOPLE BLOSSOM OR WITHER AND SHRIVEL?
Are you able to make people blossom, or wither and shrivel? According to the Talk to Me effective leadership communication system, if you have this ability then chances are you’re an Inventer leader. So I told Dick, whom I admire and love,
You know you have a green thumb to make people and businesses blossom right before your very eyes. It’s astonishing, but you already knew that, Dick! You have that special knack, and personal power, to produce powerful positive results, as if by magic. Likewise, you can use that power to rip out the lungs and heart of those you talk to, whenever you panic and react by behaving or talking in self-defeating ways. It’s your choice. You are able to make projects, results and people around you blossom or wither and shrivel.
“My mind is more free,” is a result you will experience by using the Talk to Me system.
HERE’S HOW TO HANDLE THE SUCCESS THAT’S UNFOLDING
You, too, get to chose whether you use your communication powers in positive or negative ways. Here’s what I recommend for “inventive leaders” to handle the success that’s coming your way:
1. KNOW YOU HAVE A GREEN THUMB. Become aware that what you touch blossoms and what you ignore shrivels up or dies.
2. ENJOY THE RIDE. Don’t be a dry drunk on a temporary high of success, or don’t hang on too tightly to the steering wheel of your life, causing your knuckles to turn white.
3. FEEL THE LOVE. Experience how you are liked, loved and looked up to. Breathe! You’re going to win big, emotionally and financially.
4. YOU DON’T HAVE TO BRING YOUR FEARS TO LIFE. You must find ways — that don’t strip you of joy — to help you enjoy this trip in the present moment.
5. WHY PANIC NOW? Instead, enjoy the power to produce such HUGE results. Why panic about running into a disaster of a communication car wreck when you have master control of which way the vehicle goes?
6. NO, YOU’RE NOT GOING TO SCREW THINGS UP AGAIN. Sure, you can really mess things up, but that doesn’t challenge you to feel the full joy of using your mind.
7. NO PAIN…MORE GAIN. You’ve got the power! You don’t have to struggle at all, because much of it is make-believe after all. Also, your sincere compliments are more precious than gold, and they aren’t a sign of weakness, either.
8. YOU HAVE THE POWER TO BE AWE-FILLED OR AWFUL. By using the Talk system, “funny little things” will come into your mind to say or do, and that will cause you to prosper. That’s “the light bulb went off” effect. You will feel your mind is more free, and you will experience freedom from relationship chains.
SMALL ACTIONS ALWAYS NET HUGE REWARDS
Whether a company, couple, or family unit, when you use the Talk to Me system, results happen fast and last, no matter how long a problem has been around. Meaning: small new actions seem to lead to large rewards. Client example: Focusing 10 minutes daily on a pet work project, instead of being ruled by urgent time emergencies.
WHEN IS THE OTHER BLESSING GOING TO DROP INTO YOUR LIFE?
By using the Talk system, “When is the other shoe going to drop?” is replaced by, “When is the other blessing going to drop into my life?” An example this morning was a communications client who received an unexpected raise.
EVERY CELL AWAKE AND TINGLING NOW?
When you embrace your success, you will feel that every cell in your body is awake, tingling and smiling with pride at the deep feelings of satisfaction that you’re experiencing. You will probably make mega-millions of dollars, one more time, but this time you are going to enjoy the ride. You will feel a profound sense of peace and gratitude; you will smile more; and the people you mentor will share in these good tidings, too. Just you try it and see for yourself!
ABOUT CORPORATE TRAINER AND RELATIONSHIP COACH DENNIS O’GRADY, PSY.D.
The Talk to Me system is designed to help you help yourself stop stewing…or screwing things up in your life. And you don’t need to stew any longer, or worry about what all bad dreadful gunk is going to happen to you when you’re not on guard. You now seek the middle road…instead of going to extremes. You now have nothing left to prove…instead you’ve got a whole bunch of life to enjoy. You now don’t try hard to be right, instead knowing that trying to be right turns out wrong most times. But you already knew that! Water your career and relationship life, and make them blossom, by experiencing your mental powers to create and nurture.
I know you want to use your communicator style in powerful and positive ways, because what you touch turns to gold, too. You can’t disagree. You can turn people on, and you can turn people off. It’s nothing to feel intimidated by! You get to create to your heart’s content.
Not messing up your success is a small new action that nets interpersonal dividends AND helps you to enjoy the ride along the way. In short, peace of mind deepens and anxiety lessens. As another client told me, “I’m now able to be in the zone, the peace zone!” So why not feel alive, every cell in your body smiling, as you stop getting in your own way.
Dr. Dennis O’Grady is the president and founder of New Insights Communication, and the father to a new communications approach that will open your mind to receiving new results that you’re going to love and enjoy. Talk to Me: Communication Moves To Get Along With Anyone is now available at www.drogrady.com and at Amazon.