Can you walk in the talk shoes of an Empathizer (E-type) communicator? Now, if you are an Instigator communicator (I-type), chances are you’ve inadvertently run headlong into a talk collision — or three — with an Empathizer communicator at some point. It’s not your fault! As an Instigator, you probably have concluded that E-types are “high touch and terribly emotional.” But that’s not enough information to map out your next communication move on the congested and fast-moving two-way communicator highway. So, what are you supposed to do when you’re traveling with a sensitive communicator passenger or driver?
KEYS TO THE IGNITION OF GOOD COMMUNICATION, EMPATHIZER STYLE
Here then are a few key summary points about how Empathizer-type communicators (p. 95-98 Talk to Me) drive and operate quite differently on the two-way communicator highway…in the lanes of Emotions and Talks.
Empathizer-type communicators:
• Are intimidated by the I-types’ debating skills
• Desire approval and recognition
• By nature, are shy about speaking up or disagreeing
• Are too sensitive to hurting others
• Won’t push their points of view, nor will they push back effectively
• Enjoy more compliments
• Fear corrective criticisms
• Stew and brood when talks aren’t going well
• “It’s only business, it’s nothing personal!” rings untrue
• Are de-motivated by criticism over the long haul
• See sincere compliments as being motivational
• Are person vs. policy focused
• Are behind-the-scenes workhorses who may feel under-appreciated
• Are relationship-centered
• Worry that they aren’t achieving enough
• Find that, when their mood is down, performance goes down
• Are intimidated by booming voices or facial signs of disapproval
• Can’t hear logical arguments when emotions run high
• Find that public scolding leads to personal stewing
• When distressed, will act up and do something stupid
• Will yield when they should push back and stand their ground
• Are good listeners to a fault
• Can see the “elephant in the room”
• Have solutions to pesky problems, but may not be able to lead the charge toward change
UNDERSTANDING YOUR OPPOSITE COMMUNICATOR TYPE PAYS DIVIDENDS
Do you want to get along with your opposite communicator type, instead of causing massive problems, my dear Instigator friends? Of course you do. Why would you want poor communication to push out mega-opportunities? Do you want to force positive people or truckloads of money to go flying right out of your life? New communication moves that the Talk to Me system will teach you, are as simple to recognize as the nose on your face. You don’t see the obvious honker unless you’re coached by a trusted advisor to look in the mirror of good communication.
TODAY’S TALK TOOL
Begin noticing crucial distinctive differences and communicator dimensions that will pay dividends. Today’s Talk Tool: When talking with an Empathizer, soften your voice tone and give pause or space to listen.
ABOUT THE TALK TO ME EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION SYSTEM
Dr. Dennis O’Grady wrote the book on good communication, Talk to Me: Communication Moves To Get Along With Anyone, available at drogrady.com or at Amazon. Dennis is a communications psychologist who leads Listen Up! workshops, which teach teams to listen better and become better communicators. Dr. O’Grady is the original developer of the powerful new person-driven, leadership communication system called Talk to Me© . Get your roadmap to communication success today by consulting with Dennis O’Grady.