DO YOU WEAR YOUR FEELINGS OPENLY ON A SHIRT SLEEVE?
Are you able to walk in the shoes of your opposite communicator type? Please don’t tell me you don’t know at least three of the crucial differences between Empathizer-type (E-type) and Instigator-type (I-type) communicators. The benefit to you of knowing these differences — or how opposite talk types attract and repel — is far greater communicator effectiveness and fewer misunderstandings. Just you check it out for yourself and see!
ARE YOU ABLE TO WALK IN THE SHOES OF AN INSTIGATOR COMMUNICATOR AND KNOW WHAT MAKES THEM TICK OR TICKED OFF?
The old proverb says, “You can’t compare apples and oranges.” So what do E-types (Empathizer-type communicators) need to know about I-types (Instigator-type communicators)?
I-types:
1. Dislike being backed into a corner where logical arguments fail them.
2. Dislike being at fault for a communication breakdown or emotional meltdown.
3. Are natural trial attorneys who can split hairs and convincingly argue a fine point of relationship law.
4. Assume that co-communicators should not wear their feelings openly on a shirt sleeve.
5. Work on their own time schedule and dislike being pushed or prodded to make a decision.
6. Are the world’s best procrastinators and might imply that they will complete tasks which are ultimately left undone.
7. Feel trapped and backed against a wall when they perceive that the contributions they are expected to make to a relationship are externally dictated.
8. Resent and balk at being required to stick to specific behavioral agreements with designated performance time lines.
9. Quickly point out extremes in thinking, as in “You never….” or “You always….”
10. Are logicians who use precise, plausible arguments to throw you off the central point of the discussion.
11. Will criticize their talk partners for being too perfect and for unreasonably expecting perfect relationship interactions.
To be better communicators, we must become more able to walk in the shoes of our opposite communicator type.
TEST YOUR COMMUNICATOR TYPE TODAY
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ABOUT COMMUNICATIONS PSYCHOLOGIST DENNIS E. O’GRADY, PSY.D.
Dr. Dennis O’Grady is a Dayton region corporate trainer, keynote speaker, couples counselor, and relationship expert. Dennis is the developer of the innovative person- and results-driven Talk to Me© effective leadership and teamwork communication system. For 30 years, Dr. O’Grady has focused on improving effective communication, constructive team relationships, and change management. His latest book, Talk to Me: Communication Moves To Get Along with Anyone, is available at drogrady.com or at Amazon.