DON’T LISTEN TO NEGATIVE FEEDBACK FROM NEGATIVE PEOPLE YOU DON’T RESPECT…GOOD COMMUNICATION ENERGIZES YOU
Good communication isn’t a fluke. It involves a simple system of enlightened moves. Sure, you have to work at the Talk to Me© system a little bit, but you’ll have fun getting results that motivate and inspire you. Do you have a lot of inner-personal communication power? Good communication first begins with how you talk to you. Good communication energizes YOU, while negative communication drains energy out of your communicator car battery, making you feel distressed. When you feel badly, you’re prone to making mistakes or doing things that are detrimental to you. Meanwhile, the energy of your motivation drive can freeze up because all of your energy is being drained right out of you.
TYPECASTING SKILLS CLIFF NOTES…DO YOU KNOW WITH WHOM YOU ARE TALKING?
Do you know the communicator type of your talk partner? One way to tell is how a communicator treats the self during difficult times. Some of your most important communication — how you talk to yourself — occurs when you’re cut off in communication traffic and are steamed under the collar….
ARE YOU TALKING TO AN EMPATHIZER COMMUNICATOR?
Empathizer (E-type) communicators can suffer from low self-esteem and end up being their own worst energy enemies, as they cut themselves down with self-criticism, unfair comparisons to others, or downright mean self-shredding about mistakes made.
Be advised: E-types are more sensitive to you and less sensitive to themselves, which makes them feel down and glum, and they act moronic.
In short, my dear E-types, inaccurate negative self-talk is a bad habit that can be broken!
ARE YOU TALKING TO AN INSTIGATOR COMMUNICATOR?
In opposite fashion, Instigator (I-type) communicators can suffer from excessive self-esteem and sound boastful when trying too hard to talk up their personal assets, in order to avoid negative emotions. Being an optimist isn’t always helpful when trying to problem-solve tough, painful situations.
Be advised: I-types are less sensitive to you and more sensitive to themselves, making them feel angry, anxious and scared, and they talk stupidly.
In short, my dear I-types, inaccurate positive self-talk is a bad habit that can be broken!
ADOPTING THE STRENGTHS OF YOUR OPPOSITE COMMUNICATOR STYLE
IF ONLY…both of these communicator styles would stretch into the unknown style of the opposite communicator type. Much less emotional extremism or psychodrama would materialize! E-types could better boost their spirits with the assistance of positive believing, and I-types could look more objectively in the self-analysis mirror. Both types would get a better grip on relationship realities, and positive change would happen fast and last.
ARE YOU A POSITIVE TALKER OR A NEGATALKER?
Do you let up on the criticism when you’re feeling let down? In general, are you a positive talker or a negatalker? Or are you a legend in your own mind, one who doesn’t really know what others truly think about you? Let’s find out how open you are to good communication. Simply answer yes (agree) or no (disagree) to these communicator statements:
- I purposely pick myself up when I’m feeling down
- I slow down when I’m talking too fast
- I go the extra mile and smile when I’m feeling bad
- I change what isn’t working in my life
- I show how much I like people
- I don’t interrupt in the middle of a sentence, to talk over the speaker
- I daily show my life partner and customers my caring in words and through deeds
- I use a goals map to know where I’m traveling
- I am a happy person and don’t stow it, but show it
- I listen to fair complaints with an open mind
- I don’t listen to negative feedback from people I don’t respect
- I know the grass is greenest where you take care of it
- I put off procrastinating
- I make sure to warmly thank ALL the people who support me
- I let up on the criticism when I’m feeling let down
If you answered yes to MOST of the above items, and if your closest associates and life partner would agree that you do these things, then you are a clear, positive communicator who doesn’t send confusing messages or give wrong directions to others who are lost.
HAVE YOU NOTICED THAT NEGATIVE EMOTIONS…NEGATIVE THINKING…NEGATIVE BEHAVIORS…NEGATIVE TALKING…DO NOT TYPICALLY CHANGE ANYTHING?
How you feel and think about yourself energizes or depresses you and those with whom you come into contact. E-types are expert criticizers, and I-types are expert flatterers. Neither is better or worse. There is a time and a season for both skills in the Great Universe of Good Communication.
Have you noticed that self-critiquing or self-promoting often doesn’t foster positive changes in your life? Accurate positive talk keeps you going at even speeds, while negative talks alternately make you speed up fast, then slam on your brakes hard, then accelerate fast, then….
HAVING MORE PERSONAL ENERGY ISN’T A FLUKE…IT’S UP TO YOU!
Having more personal energy isn’t a fluke! Energy is created by how negatively/positively and accurately you talk with yourself and others. Are you a positive talker who focuses on gain and hope, or a negatalker who’s constantly critical and fearful of loss? Truth be told: Some of your most important communication, how you talk to yourself, matters most when you’re cut off in communication traffic and steamed under the collar.
How you talk with yourself will either speed up the changes you hope to make or slam down the brakes hard on your self-confidence.
ARE YOU ENJOYING THE TRIP OF THIS LIFETIME?
Aren’t you enjoying this trip of a lifetime? Are you in a good or bad mood? Are you enjoying a communicator trip you won’t soon forget? When you use the Talk to Me© system, one of the key benefits you will realize is more energy. What do I mean? You will experience your energy levels as filling up instead of draining out, gaining instead of losing, optimistic instead of pessimistic, a life that is fun-filled instead of drama-filled, self-confidence instead of self-shredding, feeling like a miracle instead of a mess, and pushing for action instead of procrastinating. If you can’t believe these results, then you haven’t been driving in the four Talk Lanes of the TALK TO ME system.
ABOUT COMMUNICATIONS PSYCHOLOGIST DENNIS E. O’GRADY, PSY.D.
Dr. Dennis O’Grady is the developer of the Talk to Me© effective communication system that will quickly improve your communication skills in your personal relationships as well as at work. Why invest a few bucks and a little time to better your communication style in streamlined steps? Why not! Bad communication is like throwing opportunities and money right out the window of your blue or burnt orange communicator car. Good communication pays big dividends, while the Blame Game drives you and your relationship into a ditch.
Refusing to change the oil in your car means you will get a few miles down Talk Highway, but you will burn your engine out and need to call a tow truck. The TALK TO ME system is comprised of clear rules to make your trip down the two-way communicator highway effective and enjoyable. “The light bulb came on!” effect is just one of the key benefits you’ll receive when you personally use this innovative approach to good communication.
Don’t feel like you’re in the driver’s seat of your own life? Start preparing to get your license to drive on the two-way communicator highway today! Get improved communication results that will benefit everyone with whom you correspond, in the workplace or at home. When you use the TALK TO ME effective communication system, you’ll experience a communication trip you won’t soon forget!