Do you make really bad choices when you feel really bad? Are you able to think clearly when you’re emotionally upset? Relationship highs and lows are part of the talk scene in real life love adventures. In fact, love struck people can become emotionally obsessed with the life choices of their beloved. Tension or emotional flooding results and rationality loses out to raw emotion.
WHEN A RELATIONSHIP ISN’T WORKING FOR YOU
Are you emotionally capable or incapable? Being in love isn’t enough. Can you stand the anxiousness of being in the heat of Love’s Kitchen, or are you looking for drama and adventure? How to tell if cool logic is losing to hot emotion:
1. I make drastic and destructive choices.
2. I make bad choices when I’m depressed, boxed in, tired of dealing with reality issues, stuck in my house too much.
3. I make really bad choices when I’m feeling a mixture of jealousy and vulnerability.
4. When I make these bad choices, I feel good…and relieved.
5. Short term good feelings result in drawn-out, disastrous, damaging consequences.
6. Obsession. “I become obsessed with getting her or his attention and helping out, at any cost.”
7. Feeling Failure. “I make bad choices and make the emotional mess even worse.”
Change is your middle name. You can change the spots on a leopard if you strive to.
CHANGE KEY: RUBBER ROLLIN’ DOWN THE ROAD
You can make really good choices, even when you’re feeling really bad! (Now, it does take some work and practice to do this.) What can you do differently? Talk To Me© teaches you how to first have a good relationship with your Self, and second, how to have a good relationship with Others. Are you setting yourself up for relationship success or relationship failure?
ARE YOU THE PERSON YOU SEEK?
Anyone who is dragging around old baggage and making bad decisions, to avoid accepting new emotional realities, is not a relationship partner who is emotionally available. Make certain that person is not you! Although it’s harder to deal with yourself emotionally, it’s so much more rewarding to think clearly when you’re emotionally distraught. Be the leader of your own life, and light the way with rationality during dark emotional times.
ABOUT “TALK DOC” DENNIS O’GRADY, PSY.D.
Dr. O’Grady provides relationship communication education and coaching using the positive and effective Talk To Me© couples communication system. He has 30+ years experience in helping couples change ineffectual communication patterns.