ARE YOU GOOD TO YOUR BELOVED?
Will You Be Good To Me is a poem I wrote to help couples improve the quality of their life together. The stanzas are written from the viewpoint of a sensitive Empathizer communicator who is feeling ignored and taken for granted by an indifferent Instigator partner.
WILL YOU BE GOOD TO ME?
Will you let me know in little ways how important I am to you each day?
Will you see me through fresh new eyes each morning?
Will you hear my words with non-judgmental ears?
Will you give me a hug when I feel overwhelmed without my asking?
Or will you be too busy to call me from work …
Look at me through cold, cynical eyes in the morning …
Judge me as too needy if I need to talk to you …
Scold me for wanting a hug when you’re rushed!
Will you still love me when I disagree respectfully with you?
Will you still remember that I’m a good man or a good woman when you’re mad at me?
Will you accept my disappointments without becoming defensive?
Will you accept my vulnerability and not attack or lambaste me?
Or will you put me down when I disagree with you …
Call me bad names when you’re mad at me …
Give me grief instead of hearing my grief …
Disappear when I’m distraught!
Will you confront me when I shred your self-esteem?
Will you remind me how I’m good enough when I doubt myself?
Will you make regular deposits in our bank account of love?
Will you forgive me for being far less than I can be?
Or will you ignore my complaints …
Lay a guilt trip on me that I’m being too selfish …
Treat the dog better than you treat me …
Blame me for not living up to your expectations!
Will you kiss me when you don’t have time to?
Will you be excited and happy to buy me presents?
Will you set limits with me when I talk stupidly?
Will you hold my hand in the grocery store?
Or will you love me when you’re not so busy …
Get more thrilled about the bills than me …
Stuff your anger and steam when I speak stupidly …
Walk in front of me when we’re out together!
Will you be good to me?
And love me even when I don’t show up to love myself?
ARE YOU LOVING AN EMPATHIZER-TYPE COMMUNICATOR?
If your loved one is sensitive, emotional, thin-skinned, dislikes arguing, is easy-going and compromises easily, then your co-communicator is likely an Empathizer communicator. Conversely, if your loved one is insensitive, doesn’t sit back, likes to be in control, is thick-skinned, enjoys debating points, and has a strong personality type, then your partner is likely the opposite talk type or an Instigator communicator.
You can test your type and receive a free and private report of your communicator type at http://www.drogrady.com/type.php