Imagine a group of high I.Q. Leaders sitting around the Communicator Table, using the strengths from both sides of Talk Boulevard. Poke a little fun by calling them Talk Docs, or Doctors Of Communication, or DOCS for short. Put them through a bunch of intensive daylong training modules in the Talk2Me© positive and effective communication system…and what do you have? Smart people who don’t live in their isolated caves on Introvert Island, that’s what. Hey, no man (or woman) is a rock or an island, who feels no pain or never cries, Paul Simon!
CLASS 7, MILLION DOLLAR TALK TOOLS LEADERSHIP WISDOM—
Knowledge is power minus action. Thus, “knowing what to do” is different from actually “doing what works.” Thus, you can be a big brain who gets little done. Here are “tiebacks” to the world of real communication, with which smart communicators wisely relate and apply….
1. WHEN TALKING WITH OPPOSITE COMMUNICATOR TYPES, TRY TO EMULATE THEIR POSITIVE TRAITS
2. BE A RISK-TAKER
3. A FEW MINUTES OF MY DISCOMFORT CAN MEAN A LIFETIME OF COMFORT FOR SOMEONE ELSE
4. IN ORDER TO GET OFF MY ISLAND, I NEED TO BE MORE DIRECT…NOT WORRY SO MUCH…AND BE WILLING TO TAKE MORE RISKS
5. LEARN TO SPEAK IN CLEAR TERMS…DON’T EXPECT OR ASSUME THAT OTHERS WILL KNOW WHAT YOU’RE TRYING TO SAY
6. LEARN HOW TO USE THE GOOD TRAITS OF INSTIGATORS AND EMPATHIZERS, INSTEAD OF THE NEGATIVES
7. EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATORS WILL GET OFF THEIR PARADISE ISLAND BEFORE DISASTER OCCURS
E-SIDE OF TALK STREET VS. I-SIDE OF TALK STREET
Each two-sided gold coin of shiny communication wisdom was accounted for around the “real life, we’re all on the fly” Communicator Table one fine DFL day. (Instigator wisdom here are the “odd numbers,” and Empathizer wisdom the “even numbers.”) Do you walk on both sides of Talk Street, using the strengths and talents of your opposite communicator type? I’ll bet you do, or your get up and go would have got up and went!
LEADERSHIP STYLES
What makes a good leader great? Do we burn those sensitive Empathizer communicators at the stake?
Better not, because E-types know the solutions to vexing problems, light the way ahead, have radar that, when not all gunked up, gets us all down the two-way communicator highway, better off instead of blasted apart.
Why are I-types such good leaders? They know a thing or three about confidence, respect, crisis management, taking risks, seizing the opportunity, and motivating team members to pull the wagon harder.
Use the best of both styles to achieve Peak Communication Performance.
ABOUT “TALK DOC” COMMUNICATIONS PSYCHOLOGIST DENNIS E. O’GRADY, PSY.D.
Dr. Dennis O’Grady is the “Talk Doc” and president of the Dayton Area Psychological Association, as well as the developer of the TALK TO ME© positive and effective corporate communication training system. Why invest in a process that will improve your communication skills fast, in both personal and work relationships? When you use the tools and strategies detailed in Talk to Me: Communication Moves to Get Along With Anyone, you’ll find that it’s easy to keep your car in the center of Talk Highway, leaving the ditch to those communicators who shout out “It’s my way or the highway!”