Let’s all acquire what we admire, by adopting the inner strengths of our opposite communicator type. If you’re an Instigator-type communicator, you will benefit from sensitivity training. If you’re an Empathizer-type communicator, you will benefit from insensitivity training.
INSTIGATOR COMMUNICATORS ARE LESS SENSITIVE
Here are some presents I wish for Instigator communicators, who are not afraid to take charge and lead us all out of emotional swamps…
- Enjoy being a willing passenger instead of a hard driver
- Make decisions with your heart
- Listen for what you don’t expect to hear
- Look…and look again…before you leap
- Take a cautious step back to look ahead at predicted obstacles
- Be cool: Maintain a courteous and professional attitude in every situation
- Anticipate and respond to changes in others moods
- Know you have the negative, AND the positive, relationship climate control at your fingertips
- Leave your bad mood at the door when you come home
- Become an expert listener and LISTEN UP
- Demonstrate flexibility, sensitivity, compassion, and interest by not always knowing
- Be a better follower to enhance your leadership skills
- Waste a little time in idle chit-chat with people who help you attain your goals
- Dwell on the present of the present
- Make an unexpected phone call to someone you know who admires you
- Concede that emotions are strengths
EMPATHIZER COMMUNICATORS ARE MORE SENSITIVE
Here are some presents I wish for Empathizer communicators, whose ideas light the way ahead during the darkest of times…
- Be less sensitive and not so afraid of hurting others’ feelings
- Flush mental crap
- Refuse to take on the bad mood of a bad news bear
- When you are uncertain, project strength and confidence
- Push back when you’re feeling pushed around
- Speak up, take the bull by the horns, talk no bull, speak louder to be heard
- Use assertive action solutions to problems when you feel bad
- Kick the self-doubt habit
- Know your “daring to care” attitude is admired by all, if shared only by a few
- A faithful and loyal friend who reflects the faithfulness and loyalty seen in you
- Care less about what others think, believe, or resolve
- Accept that you have Million Dollar Ideas that will help us all, so SPEAK OUT
- Be not afraid of conflict!
- Be a risk taker; jump right in instead of testing the waters
- Be willing to put the pressure on someone other than yourself
- R-E-S-P-E-C-T yourself!
- Speak assertively of the creative solutions you see to pesky problems
- I respect and admire you, my dear I- and E-types!
A TWO-WAY COMMUNICATOR HIGHWAY
May Blessings of Better Communication Abound!
ABOUT “TALK DOC” DENNIS O’GRADY, Psy.D.
Dr. Dennis O’Grady is a Communication Expert and Developer of the TALK2ME Communication Roadmap. You, too, can profit from better communication! Talk with Dennis at 937-428-0724.