I had to get my laptop computer fixed. As a small business guy, I have to make good decisions on the fly, and I don’t have deep pockets to absorb expensive mistakes if I do business with the wrong person. I’ve noticed that despite high-flying talk from people who want my business, many outfits live in the lowlands of broken promises and very poor customer service. In fact, many outside consultants don’t even ask for my business or act like they are doing me a favor by taking my money.
BE THE REAL DEAL IN POSITIVE BUSINESS COMMUNICATIONS
You’re the real deal though. In fact, vendors and customers may have a hard time believing you and may negatively think, “He or she is too good to be true.” But you’re a true, ethical and decent person, and you don’t want people to take advantage of you. You put into practice in your business communications many strategies that so many others preach from the pulpit but don’t live out in the real world:
1. YOU ASK AND LISTEN FOR WHAT YOUR CUSTOMER NEEDS. You don’t tell your customers what they need, but you listen to what they tell you about their problem and how you can help them.
2. YOU HONESTLY EXPLAIN HOW YOU CAN HELP THEM. You skip the jive talking and simply provide for your customer the facts of what needs to be done to solve their problem.
3. YOU DELIVER. Eureka! You actually do what you say you’re going to do!
4. YOU DELIVER ON TIME. It’s frustrating how many people don’t deliver in the time frame agreed upon with the quality of results promised.
5. YOU SMILE REASSUREDLY WHEN YOU TALK. You seek to deliver a positive mental attitude to your customers, most of whom are probably having a terribly frustrating day.
6. YOU DON’T MAKE THE CUSTOMER FEEL STUPID. All of us struggle with being ignorant in areas outside of our expertise when we have to depend on others’ knowledge to help us succeed. You seek to make your customer feel at ease in trusting their problems to you.
7. YOU DELIVER THE GOODS AT A FAIR PRICE. You don’t live or die by the amount of money you make — you want to provide a great product at a good price. Your customers will not only come back the next time they need your help, but they will serve as a source of referrals to their friends, your future customers.
8. YOU OFFER ADDITIONAL SUGGESTIONS TO IMPROVE THE LIFE AND WEALTH OF YOUR CUSTOMER. When a customer trusts you, they will ask for your suggestions and listen to additional ways to solve their embarrassing, pesky problems.
CONFIDENCE IS COMPETENCE
Business Rule #1: Showing an attitude of confidence makes your customers think you are competent. Now, of course, you had better BE competent if you expect your business to succeed. Overall, psychologically, customers don’t want to feel stupid, feel like an odd duck, lose security, or be humiliated by the unexpected ripping apart of their status quo. YOU are the answer to their problems, don’t you know. Do you want to feel confident, positioning your company and family for increasing levels of success…and make good money, too? Of course you do!
SHOCK YOUR CUSTOMERS BY GIVING THEM WHAT THEY WANT (LACK)
Do you understand your personal power as a communicator? It requires that you have confidence in yourself, and that you skip the inferiority complex business. It means, as an Empathizer communicator, that you affirm the multitude of your talents without shyness. And it means, as an Instigator communicator, that you realize people naturally trust your confidence and want to follow your call to go down open avenues of opportunity that don’t lead over a cliff.
ABOUT COMMUNICATIONS EXPERT DENNIS E. O’GRADY, PSY.D.
Communications psychologist, corporate trainer and author Dennis O’Grady has a bone to pick with Empathizer communicators. Exude confidence. Feel confident. Show your confidence, for gosh sakes! Stop lying to yourself or others, implying that you don’t own a boatload of skills and talents for hire. When you exude a lack of confidence, others will assume you have a lack of skills, when the reverse is true. Why can’t you be more like Instigator communicators who know that this confidence talk rule rules in the business world? Well, now you can. In my book “Talk to Me,” clinical research has shown that E-types are too humble and hard on themselves, and they don’t talk the self up enough during business meetings. I-types are super-confident and exuberantly promise what they may or may not be able to deliver. Hear me ye E-types: Practice in your brain being more confident four minutes a day. For example, don’t deviate from questions–answer strong–to stop selling yourself short. Say inwardly, “I’m not afraid to show my confidence.” Or, “If I don’t have confidence in my skills, who should?” And, “Would I hire the unconfident person, a person with a little confidence or a person who exudes confidence, all other things being equal?” So, if you don’t have confidence in yourself, my beloved Empathizer-type communicator, then it’s nothing personal when no one else does. Exude the confidence of a person who gets things done. If you’re serious about doing this, spend time reading about the “Talk to Me” system that helps Empathizers increase their confidence in communicating confidently. Stop fretting about being picked on, critiqued harshly, or coming up short. You have a great deal of control over whether or not you get hired or fired. Daily build confidence in your professional and business communication skills. Lecture over…for now!