Communicate Effectively

COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY…

Experienced communicators don’t fail to fail, but they do successfully learn from their mistakes. Our first TALK2ME© communication training session held thousands of years of real life communication driving school experiences – tips and tools guaranteed to break down Jersey walls or barriers which restrict communication during tumultuous travel times.

MULTI-MILLION DOLLAR TALK TOOLS TO HELP YOU COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY

What one rule of good communication do you follow when nothing else seems to be working, and the chips are down? This is your group wisdom! By communicating effectively you LEARN and EARN. By doing what?

  • Understanding objections
  • Having patience; look at the big picture
  • Clearing the decks by using a “laser focus” to hone in on one thing
  • Being honest with oneself; admit and correct mistakes
  • Keeping an open mind; don’t let T.V. do your thinking for you
  • By just listening
  • When in a traffic jam, taking a helicopter view of the situation
  • Utilizing a listening discussion vs. a debating discussion
  • Changing the channel of “I’m usually right!” selective listening
  • Presenting an “I can solve problems” positive attitude
  • Changing your viewpoint; agreeing to disagree; not either/or but both/and
  • Being more tolerant; seeking to understand
  • Doing your prep work and using your work ethic
  • Calming yourself down by leaving emotions out

DO YOU TALK AT PEOPLE, OR DO YOU TALK WITH PEOPLE?

Do you talk at people or talk with people? Are you shrinking from facing down your fears of failure? Expert communicators flexibly use the combined strengths of successful Empathizer and Instigator communicators. By doing so, you TALK2PEOPLE!

TALK2PEOPLE!

Call Talk2Me developer and trainer, Dr. Dennis O’Grady, to discuss your leadership communication workshop needs today at (937) 428-0724.

Get Busy Teaming

WHAT ARE YOUR COMMUNICATION TRAINING OBJECTIVES?

How do you get busy teaming? What if your team is made up of top performers who hate to fail and love to excel? Here’s what one team of effective communicators focuses on when it comes to practicing and profiting from good communication skills…

◊ The key is motivation, motivating everyone to be the very best they can be.

◊ Understand that the success of the person relates to the success of the company…and vice versa.

◊ The success of the company is directly related to the effort of the individual.

◊ Our leadership wants everyone to be involved and committed to the team approach.

◊ We’re getting there, but there still is a lot of work to be done…we need to openly share ideas as a group.

◊ Company objectives are clear…we don’t want people who have the best ideas to shy away, because implementation of new ideas leads to greater success.

◊ What’s the best way to achieve the objectives? Solve problems as a team

◊ It’s not your problem — it’s our problem. We’re problem solving from a team perspective rather than from an individual perspective.

◊ Stronger personalities won’t point the finger — all personalities around the communicator table will give positive input.

◊ We will not be afraid of failure. We are correcting issues…not correcting people (that’s communication).

◊ It’s not that I don’t like you….I don’t like problems that go uncorrected.

◊ Don’t make people the issue.…Make solving the problem the issue.

◊ Different people drive certain things, but everyone needs to be a driver.

◊ Don’t wait for someone else to get something done — if you see something that’s not being done, take it upon yourself to see that it happens.

◊ We are a whole group of drivers, reaping huge benefits as a team.

◊ If we focus on these areas of change, we will make huge gains.

◊ We work for each other.

◊ Everyone will be working equally hard, together, to produce significant success.

◊ We don’t believe in empire building and clicks….We are one group trying to achieve the same thing.

◊ “I didn’t get it done because they didn’t make it happen…” is not being accountable.

◊ We’ve made big strides, but we can continuously get better.

◊ Our company succeeds when we give you a communication comfort level to express your new ideas without fear.

Dr. Dennis O’Grady is a relationship psychologist and developer of the management communication training system called TALK2ME. Dennis can be reached at 937-428-0724.

Get busy teaming!

Are You Being Emotionally Blackmailed?

Are you being emotionally blackmailed? Here’s a quick test — spell out the Manipulative Genius of your talk antagonist right now…

A…

Aggressive

Angry

Aloof

Adversarial

B…

Belligerent

Bitchy (bastardly)

Belittling

Back stabbing

C…

Contemptuous

Controlling

Conniving

Cunning as a fox

It’s as easy as doing your A-B-C’s. One “yes” strike and your Fatal Attraction movie friend should strike out of your life game, altogether. Dead on?

Thanks, Dr. Susan Forward, who coined the term Emotional Blackmail, in the book by the same name. Thanks as well to Dr. Robert Glover, author of No More Mr. Nice Guy. And thanks to Dr. Robin Stern who authored The Gaslight Effect. Read them and leap ahead in your life.

Dr. Dennis O’Grady is a Dayton family business consultant and relationship counselor. Dennis is the developer of the TALK2ME system and can be reached at 937-428-0724.

Empathizer and Instigator: Distinct Differences

Are you improving your communication skills a little each day? Only if you know your communicator type. Read down the list below to find out which type of communicator you are! For example, Empathizer communicators agree to pick up negative feelings too easily, and Instigator communicators agree to pass along negative feelings too easily, both without realizing it:

An Empathizer is naturally more sensitive and tuned in to the feelings of others.
Listening with three ears is typical of Empathizer behavior.

An Instigator is naturally less sensitive and tuned in to the thoughts of others.
Listening with half an ear, or maybe half an ear on each side of the head, is common among Instigators.

An Empathizer is at his or her best when relationship waters are calm.
Stroking loving bonds and feeling loving and valuing, are feelings with which Empathizers feel comfortable.

An Instigator is at her or his best when a crisis is burning or brewing.
Keeping a calm head during a blazing crisis is what Instigators do best.

An Empathizer feels sad because he/she fears Instigator anger.
Feeling lonely brings down the mood of an E-type.

An Instigator feels mad because he/she fears Empathizer sadness.
Feeling bored brings down the mood of an I-type.

An Empathizer deals with anxiety by talking about negative issues with a friend.
An Empathizer follows gut feelings and leads with emotions.

An Instigator deals with anxiety by doing something positive with a friend.
An Instigator follows logic and takes the lead away from emotions.

An Empathizer may stuff hurt feelings inside when he/she doesn’t get what he/she wants.
An Empathizer, when hurt, can avoid or pull back from relationships.

An Instigator pushes without guilt to get what he/she wants.
An Instigator, when smarting, can be too aggressive about relationships.

An Empathizer prefers to speak by using emotions
An Empathizer changes more when using the language of beliefs.

An Instigator prefers to speak by using beliefs.
An Instigator changes more when using the language of emotions.

An Empathizer correctly believes the world is one in which humans help each other.
An Empathizer works hard to reduce losses.

An Instigator correctly believes the world is a dog-eat-dog kind of place.
An Instigator works hard at winning.

An Empathizer wants to resolve past issues now, in the present moment.
They prefer relationship problem-solving to improve togetherness.

An Instigator wants to move beyond what’s happened in the past.
Fixing things and making strategic future change – plans are what Instigators prefer.

An Empathizer forgets to put on his/her stage makeup.
Sincerity, being loyal, and real confidence are everything to an Empathizer.

An Instigator puts on a positive face.
Genuineness, being powerful, and projecting confidence are everything to an Instigator.

As Empathizer and Instigator communicators learn to better understand their weaknesses and proactively utilize their respective strengths, then every communicator, couple, and family will feel more at ease.

Dennis O’Grady, PsyD provides effective communication workshops, couple communication training and family business communication seminars using his innovative and effective TALK2ME system.. Dennis can be reached at 937-428-0724.

Nice People

Do you speak up when things aren’t going right? Empathizer communicators are perceived as being nice people who are pushovers. That’s true, and prejudicial, because…

JUST BECAUSE I’M QUIET…doesn’t mean I’m weak

JUST BECAUSE I’M SILENT…doesn’t mean I’m in agreement with you

JUST BECAUSE I’M RESERVED…doesn’t mean I have nothing to say

JUST BECAUSE I STUMBLE OVER MY WORDS…doesn’t mean I’m not right

JUST BECAUSE I DON’T LOOK CONFIDENT…doesn’t mean I’m not competent

JUST BECAUSE I LOOK AWAY…doesn’t mean I’m intimidated by you

JUST BECAUSE I’M SAD…doesn’t mean I’m not contented

JUST BECAUSE I’M CAUTIOUS…doesn’t mean I avoid taking risks

JUST BECAUSE I’M SMILING…doesn’t mean I’m happy

JUST BECAUSE I’M TALKING…doesn’t mean I’m saying what I want

JUST BECAUSE I’M NICE…doesn’t mean I don’t feel resentful

JUST BECAUSE I’M A PUSHOVER…doesn’t mean I won’t or can’t push back

You have the power to use words to steer a new course of direction that will relieve resentment. Blend the strengths of both Empathizer and Instigator communicators today, and you’ll notice positive changes almost immediately.

Dr. Dennis O’Grady is a family business communication consultant and couple psychologist from Dayton, Ohio. Call about Talk2Me© training at 937-428-0724.