The Roadmap To Positive Leadership

POSITIVE LEADERSHIP PRINCIPLES ON THE TALK2ME COMMUNICATION ROADMAP

Do you have a roadmap to positive leadership that works 90% of the time? Can you pull from all these inner strengths when the occasion calls for it or when the situation warrants?

•    Careful—won’t keep making the same dumb mistake
•    Not blindly going along, but will implement
•    Sensitive—it really matters to the person
•    Respected and respectful—a feeling of wanting to do it for you, because of feeling valued
•    Empathy—one-on-one relationships
•    Open to other ideas
•    Building trust by caring
•    Showing regard and being sensitive equals a feeling of worth. Increases productivity and teamwork.
•    Will adapt and change course as needed
•    Know what has to be done
•    Forge ahead—takes uncertainty out of decisions
•    Doesn’t let emotions get in the way of making hard decisions
•    The real deal has meaning and purpose and leads as others follow
•    Decisions based on sense
•    Step towards the problem
•    Follow the plan to a ‘T’
•    Results as measurements
•    Secure in decisions

ABOUT THE TALK2ME COMMUNICATION ROADMAP

A balanced and effective leader uses the inner strengths of both Empathizer and Instigator communication styles depending on the situation. You will get blisters trying to shove your feet into the wrong pair of communicator shoes. Find out your communicator type, and receive a free report, by clicking on http://www.drogrady.com/type.php

DR. DENNIS O’GRADY, PSY.D.

Dr. Dennis O’Grady is a Communication Expert and Developer of The Talk2Me leadership communication system. You can talk with Dennis at (937) 428-0724.

Have The First Action Instead Of The Last Word

DO YOU PUT BRAKES ON YOUR MOUTH?

Are you reactive by striving hard to have the last word? Or are you responsive by driving safely to have the first positive action on the two-way communicator highway?

HOW DO I TAP ON MY BRAKES WHEN I’M MOVING TOO FAST?

DO TALK, OF COURSE:

• Do tap on your brakes to slow down, when your emotions are running hot.

• Do release yourself from the prison of perfectionism.

• Do listen more than you pontificate or lecture.

• Do hear negative feedback that resolves those pesky problems which haunt you.

• Do escort the elephant in the room to outside your front door.

• Do respond authentically to others instead of using “knee-jerk-me-jerk” reactions.

• Do pull out the tree from your own eye before you point out the toothpick in the other guy’s eye.

• Do nurture yourself and reach out to others to “depressurize” when you’re stressed out.

• Do use your character values (honesty, integrity, respect) as your compass when speeding along, lost in a fog of emotion.

• Do take the cotton out of your ears, especially if you are prone to trying too hard to be right, just to save face.

• Do make every effort to change and grow on a daily basis.

• Do have the first action, instead of having the last word.

• Do be a validator, instead of a villain.

• Do remember that God gave us one mouth and two ears for a very good reason!

• Do follow good communication driving rules, especially when you don’t want to.

Travel on the two-way Communicator Highway can be, and often is, hazardous to your health. If you use the Talk Tools from your Communicator Toolbox, you will be able to circumvent those fender-benders just ahead, and you’ll know when to take a detour or a completely new route, as you head toward your destination.

Dennis O’Grady, Psy.D., is a Communication Expert and Developer of Talk2Me positive and effective communication system. His communication classes are described as “humbling, surprising, eye-opening, enlightening, valuable, intense, informative, very educational, very beneficial.” He is available to talk at (937) 428-0724.

Drilling Down To The Depths Of Clear Communication

In the communication well, how do you drill down to the depths of good communication? TALK2ME Class 16 committed to acquiring the strengths of their opposite communicator types. Empathizer leaders decided to become assertively fearless, while the Instigator leaders decided to become fearless listeners. What strength will complement your communication toolbox?

THE EMPATHIZER SIDE OF TALK STREET

•    Use compassion and be sensitive.
•    Be more direct.
•    Lack of fear.  I don’t want to be afraid of failure. I want to be successful.
•    Be a little more assertive. Be a little more driven.
•    Commitment. Make a commitment.
•    Be more empowering to my guys instead of being on the same friend level.
•    Go-to guy. Be the person to rely on to promote quality and     success in the work environment.
•    Empowering. Be a charismatic leader and a clutch performer. Be a manager who delivers under pressure, time, and need.

THE INSTIGATOR SIDE OF TALK STREET

•    Be a listener. When you listen you earn. Be less competitive. Less is more sometimes.
•    Be able to step outside the situation and walk in the other person’s shoes. Have more consideration and compassion about what’s going on with him.
•    I would have to say more approachable. Be able to get the employees to understand that if they have problems and gripes, they can come and talk to me. Not be afraid to talk to me.
•    Be a better listener.
•    I would have to say be a better listener.

COMMUNICATOR MOTIVATOR

What is your motivation and communication purpose? Is the intent of your straight talk to help, to heal, or to harm? You are a communicator motivator! Communication matters all the way out and all the way back. Who’s in the driver’s seat of your life?

ONE TEAM

Are you one team? Do you apply customer-centered communication tools? Dennis O’Grady is a Communication Expert and the Developer of The TALK2ME Communication System. Dennis is a professional speaker and communication educator, who can be reached at (937) 428-0724.

The Rebellion Against The Stomach

TEAM UNITY: EITHER WE ALL WORK TOGETHER, OR NOTHING WORKS AT ALL

Once a man had a dream in which his hands and feet and mouth and brain all began to rebel against his stomach.

“You good-for-nothing sluggard!” the hands said. “We work all day long, sawing and hammering and lifting and carrying. By evening we’re covered with blisters and scratches, and our joints ache, and we’re covered with dirt. And meanwhile you just sit there, hogging all the food.”

“We agree!” cried the feet. “Think how sore we get, walking back and forth all day long. And you just stuff yourself full, you greedy pig, so that you’re that much heavier to carry about.”

“That’s right!” whined the mouth. “Where do you think all that food you love comes from? I’m the one who has to chew it all up, and as soon as I’m finished you suck it all down for yourself. Do you call that fair?”

“And what about me?” called the brain. “Do you think it’s easy being up here, having to think about where your next meal is going to come from? And yet I get nothing at all for my pains.”

And one by one the parts of the body joined the complaint against the stomach, which didn’t say anything at all.

“I have an idea,” the brain finally announced. “Let’s all rebel against this lazy belly, and stop working for it.”

“Superb idea!” all the other members and organs agreed. “We’ll teach you how important we are, you pig. Then maybe you’ll do a little work of your own.”

So they all stopped working. The hands refused to do any lifting or carrying. The feet refused to walk. The mouth promised not to chew or swallow a single bite. And the brain swore it wouldn’t come up with any more bright ideas. At first the stomach growled a bit, as it always did when it was hungry. But, after a while, it was quiet.

Then, to the dreaming man’s surprise, he found he could not walk. He could not grasp anything in his hands. He could not even open his mouth. And he suddenly began to feel rather ill.

The dream seemed to go on for several days. As each day passed, the man felt worse and worse. “This rebellion had better not last much longer,” he thought to himself, “or I’ll starve.”

Meanwhile, the hands and feet and mouth and brain just lay there, getting weaker and weaker. At first they roused themselves just enough to taunt the stomach every once in a while, but before long, they didn’t even have the energy for that.

Finally the man heard a faint voice coming from the direction of his feet.

“It could be that we were wrong,” they were saying. “We suppose the stomach might have been working in his own way all along.”

“I was just thinking the same thing,” murmured the brain. “It’s true he’s been getting all the food. But it seems he’s been sending most of us right back to us.”

“We might as well admit our error,” the mouth said. “The stomach has just as much work to do as the hands and feet and brain and teeth.”

“Then let’s all get back to work,” they cried together. And at that, the man woke up.

To his relief, he discovered his feet could walk again. His hands could grasp, his mouth could chew, and his brain could now think clearly. He began to feel much better.

“Well, there’s a lesson for me,” he thought as he filled his stomach at breakfast. “Either we all work together, or nothing works at all.”

ONE TEAM

Are you one team? Do you apply customer-centered communication tools? Dennis O’Grady is a Communication Expert and the Developer of The TALK2ME Communication System. Dennis is a professional speaker and communication educator, who can be reached at (937) 428-0724.

Just Listen Longer

YOU ARE A FIRST CLASS COMMUNICATOR…

You aren’t a second-class communicator. You are a first class communicator…and don’t let anybody tell you any differently. The first-class wisdom of Class 15, who had all four corners of their Talk World covered with trust and respect for each other, as Empathizer and Instigator communicators….

BETTER COMMUNICATION LEADS TO BETTER CONFIDENCE

How do you open up lines of communication and drill down to the real themes that profits everyone?

It’s through relationships that all goals are attained. Trusting relationships work. Be a motivator!

“The glass is half full” thinking may not always be a good thing. Sometimes you have to look at the glass as half-empty to gain a better perspective and better or more realistic self-confidence.

I need a more positive attitude. There needs to be a more positive attitude in the workplace. Set the mood, not the doom. Don’t take things personally and react defensively. (“I’m not going there.”)

Be a good listener. Don’t cut the guys off. Don’t always take things personally.

Good decisions will come from a diverse group of individuals who see more than just one side of things. I will speak my mind with more conviction, resulting in motivating others.

There are always two sides to each coin or story, positive and negative. Harsh words about you that aren’t true hurt the most.

Self-confidence. The culture of Dayton Freight is to always treat people with trust and respect. Being honest and open decrease anxiety.

LISTEN…and take time to process what another person is actually saying.  Seek to improve your ability to listen.

Be more patient. Have more patience. Don’t run around like your hair is on fire.

Mood dictates reputation. Being patient improves your mood.

Attitude: You get back what you give!

For me it’s very simple—JUST LISTEN LONGER.

We cannot change the past but can improve on the future. (Less stressful.)

IT ALL BEGINS AND ENDS WITH COMMUNICATION

It all begins and ends with good communication skills. You come into this world communicating, and you will exit this world communicating. Invest in yourself and a brighter future! The Talk2Me© system works when you use it, and it even works when you don’t use it. Use good communication tools to gain hope instead of losing out on substantial gains.

ABOUT COMMUNICATION EXPERT DR. DENNIS O’GRADY

Dennis O’Grady is a communication expert and developer of the TALK2ME positive and effective communication system. You can discuss your communication training program needs by calling Dr. O’Grady at (937) 428-0724.