12 Self-Esteem Rights

Personal success derives from the momentum of boosting your confidence when you feel bummed out. Rest on your laurels for awhile to celebrate your victories and ease your defeats, but then get right back up and keep on changing to enjoy the sweet taste of victory again.

12 Self-Esteem Rights to Keep You Pumped Up

Create the kind of life you want! You can quickly translate depressive thoughts and anxious feelings into confidence by using these practical actions that are guaranteed to boost m/your confidence and juice y/our positive attitude:

1. To nurture my strengths and unique talents.

2. To reinforce myself for small positive changes.

3. To love myself even when others react in disapproving ways.

4. To make new choices which are good for me.

5. To improve my self-worth by setting goals.

6. To use gold advice to grow.

7. To live my own life free of resentment.

8. To change myself even when everything is going well.

9. To start pleasing myself more.

10. To take positive action in spite of fears that make me feel undesirable.

11. To use all of my feelings constructively including anger.

12. To have my changes noticed and stroked by loved ones.

Low self-esteem is a powerful state of the anxious mind. It can influence your mood, shyness or outgoingness, how you shake hands or speak up, public speaking anxiety…even how willing you are to reach out and take healthy risks in your personal or business life.

Low self-esteem is corrected by challenging the negative belief that you are a victim who can’t do anything productive or right to change your life. Now you know that your life IS in your control, when you use any one of the “12 Self-Esteem Rights” listed above right now.

When I’m frustrated…I pick one of the 12 Self-Esteem Rights to focus on as I travel through my day to slay low or manic self-esteem moods. IT works like a charm!

Dr. Dennis O’Grady is a clinical psychologist and communications coach from Dayton, Ohio, USA. His new communication theory of Empathizer (E-type) vs. Instigator (I-type) communicators is featured in his newly released book TALK TO ME. In Dr. O’Grady’s clinical studies, Empathizer communicators tend to struggle with low self-esteem (LSE), while Instigator communicators struggle with excessive self-esteem (ESE).

Talking To Irate People

Relational anger is “bristling energy” that bounces back-and-forth between people like a spark around gasoline…a whacked tennis ball…a sharp rock or a hot potato. Pushing an “It’s all your fault!” relationship agenda doesn’t work for anyone. Your anxiety naturally skyrockets when you are confronted by an irate person who’s on the prowl to blame someone at work or at home.

Life Is A Highway

The new Pixar movie “Cars” rocks and zooms to the all-night driving tune by Rascal Flatts called “Life Is a Highway.” This classic hero’s journey storyline, cut from the same light saber as Star Wars, sure made my brain light up all night long! You can set your tripometer to the fact that I got my communication kicks on Route 66, when my girls took me to the new Disney movie for my birthday. “Cars” will get you where you need and want to go. And, yeah, I turned double nickels, like the speed limit on many highways.

COMMUNICATION BREAKDOWN OR TWO-WAY TALK HIGHWAY?

Have you had a bad communication breakdown on your talk highway recently that pushed you to find yourself in spite of yourself, like the hero in the movie…Lightning McQueen?

My engine is roaring and my spirits are soaring because my newly released book TALK TO ME, aimed at better communication, also uses the car metaphor to get on the right talk track. In fact, I used driver’s education, driving blue and burnt orange cars, opposing lanes of communication, the two-way vs. one-way communication highway and all sorts of driving stuff to drive home good communication tools!

So, naturally, my hopes were desert-wide and sky-high that the movie would run true to the communications system that took me four years to make, too.

CommTool#8: “Now HEAR THIS My Dear Mind!”

Did you know that key words in the spoken language you commonly use are “command words” that energize your mind to faithfully comply with hidden instructions? Yep. It’s true, and there’s nothing crazy about it. These “broadcast commands/words” use “code words” that include UNTIL… BUT… SHOULD… HARD… NOT… IT’S… YOU’RE… just to name seven. Your mind delivers what you instruct it to, so if you don’t pay attention to what you’re saying, you can end up where you don’t want to go!

The purpose of CommTool #8: NOW HEAR THIS MY DEAR MIND! is to disrupt the “programming” that tells your mind and emotions where they ought to go, with or without your conscious consent. As you implement this tool, you will become more aware and in-charge of your mood…way TOO cool.

NegaTalkers

Are NegaTalkers spinning your head, messing with your mind and stealing your peace of mind while sending you on a gut-wrenching guilt trip? Sh-Boom! NegaTalkers are terribly good at amplifying your negative thoughts, and turning down the volume of your positive thoughts…if you agree. You don’t have to be negative…you choose to be. Don’t you agree?

The most negative live word grenade that any person or partner can maddeningly and condemningly hand you with the pin pulled out is: “WHY do YOU ALWAYS have to be SO-O NEGATIVE?” Now there’s some ultra-positive talking that will boost your spirits to the high heavens, eh? So, what on earth are you supposed to say back to a “negatalker” when talking back may lead straight away into “circular talks” that spin your head and mess with your mind and serenity?’ How can you pull out the nails that a “negatalker” is trying to drill into you that get your back up and stick your back up against a wall?