Posts in category: LEADERSHIP DEVELOPMENT

A CHARISMATIC LEADER

How do you describe yourself as a leader? In the TALK2ME© system, charismatic leaders are called Inventors. Inventors are Instigator-type innovators who are relentless in achieving futuristic company goals. Are you a charismatic leader who produces astonishing results? How to know…

ARE YOU A ‘MOOD MAKER OR MOOD BREAKER’ LEADER?

A charismatic leader gets under people’s skin in a relentless effort to communicate what needs to be accomplished today to produce results tomorrow and after tomorrow.

If you are a top performing, “I like to win” charismatic leader, you will say: “Yes, I lead by using these 11 talk strategies….”

• I KNOW HOW TO COMMUNICATE WITH PEOPLE. One of my strongest assets is the ability to quickly observe how different people are motivated. I approach people in a manner that makes sense to them.

• IT’S NOT ROCKET SCIENCE…IT’S ABOUT PEOPLE. The smartest people often have their heads in the clouds, and they don’t always get it. They don’t know how to adapt to people by keeping their feet on the ground and using their Emotional I.Q.

• CONNECT WITH PEOPLE. I usually know what makes people tick (or ticked off), so I can address each person as an individual.

• BE A JUGGLER. I manage people by staying focused on the balls in the air that are central to success.

• SELF-EVALUATE. Ensure that your people are vested in projects, to the point of grading their performance on a personal report card, just as I do.

• CHANGE. If I screwed up yesterday, I can’t go back to fix it, but I sure can do something about it today. Successful people change what isn’t working.

• CORRECTIVE COMMUNICATION. When you use corrective communication, your team anticipates sending their leader input about what isn’t going well and what can be done to correct the shortcomings.

• MANAGE THE BOSS. No need to pat yourself on the back as a team player. There may not be an “I” in TEAM but there is an “I” in WIN. Keep your eyes on the prize. Produce the results that are stated in the project goals…or you can wait for my first-thing phone call.

• MAKE PEOPLE FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE. I’ve gotten past being labeled as ‘mean’ when I’ve thrown out bad apples or pointed out that we’re harvesting the wrong orchard. People grow from being uncomfortable.

• LOOK SERIOUS. I don’t exactly walk around with a smile on my face all day long, so people perceive me as unapproachable. You are probably labeled as arrogant, especially if you are shy and you generate decent results.

• I’M NOT EGOTISTICAL. I love to solve problems by envisioning what needs to happen differently in the future, and I’m good at it. I’m not good at dishing out praise.

ARE YOU A CHARASMATIC LEADER…ARE YOU A RESULTS-DRIVEN NUT?

If you like to set the standard…if WIN is your middle name…if you prefer to work smart while motivating your people to work really hard…if you are a results-driven nut…if you are envied…if some people don’t appreciate your honest feedback…if you are perceived as being relentless…if you have been accused of being moody or controlling…and especially if you’re CHARASMATIC even when you don’t think so…then let’s talk about rocket-boosting your communicator style.

By blending your natural Instigator style with an Empathizer leadership style, your team productivity will soar as positive communication fans out throughout the ranks, and your winning team finds new ways to solve sizable problems using TALK2ME© tools.

DR. DENNIS O’GRADY is the developer of the TALK2ME© communication system. He is a clinical psychologist who specializes in corporate training and couple counseling.

CODE OF COMMUNICATION ETHICS

When the rubber meets the road, do you follow these codes of communicator competence?

1. I ask clearly stated questions.
2. I listen open-mindedly and without distraction.
3. When I feel anxious about the topic of discussion, for confirmation I summarize and repeat what is being said to me.
4. I apologize when I talk over anyone.
5. I don’t push my pointed opinion down a closed throat.
6. I respectfully give feedback in the preferred style of Empathizers vs. Instigators.
7. I manage my own mood because I am in the driver’s seat of my life.
8. I access information and mentors to help me become a more positive and effective communicator.
9. I work with my communicator type and know why I react/respond as an Empathizer-type or Instigator-type communicator.
10. I purposefully acquire the strengths I admire about my opposite communicator type.
11. I don’t cop out by defaulting to fear or anger or the blame game, which is lame.
12. I confront and eliminate the communicator prejudices of both types to create productive problem solving and enlivening relationships.

Dr. Dennis O’Grady is a clinical psychologist, and relationship communication consultant who offers coaching and workshops on the TALK2ME system. Dennis can be reached at (937) 428-0724.

The goal of TALK2ME© communication training is to enhance performance and profits by improving trustworthy communication. This is accomplished by pushing leadership down the ranks by accessing strengths and steering around weaknesses or potholes on the two-way communication highway.

WALK THE TALK OF POSITIVE AND EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

TALK2ME© tools create positive results in the individual, team, and organization as illustrated in your personal copy of Discover Your Inner Strength. The following results occur as innovative TALK2ME© strategies are implemented. When you learn, you earn:

1. Bridges of trust are built

2. Initiative is taken by each individual

3. A collaborative, two-way communicator highway is built among team members

4. Managing mood increases productivity by 40%

5. Sense of urgency for improvement and tolerance for change is felt among team members

GIMMICKS

Sadly, some communication training programs are presented in a large group, lecture format, so the information may go into the head, but it doesn’t move into the heart and hands of the student to be successfully implemented everyday. That’s too bad, because such programs can be a waste of your time and money. In contrast, because training is in an interactive format, TALK2ME© tools “stick” with trainees, enabling them to spontaneously apply the tools in their personal relationships, with the same great results they experience in the workplace.

It all comes down to communication, and you can maintain control of and influence all your conversations just by using a few simple tools from the TALK2ME© communication toolbox.

DEVELOPER OF TALK2ME POSITIVE AND EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION SYSTEM

Dennis O’Grady, PsyD, is a clinical psychologist who is a communication expert. He was 2008 president of the Dayton Area Psychological Association. Dr. O’Grady may be contacted at 7501 Paragon Road, Suite 200, Dayton, OH 45459. Office Phone: 937-428-0724. E-mail: dennis@drogrady.com

WHAT ARE YOUR COMMUNICATION TRAINING OBJECTIVES?

How do you get busy teaming? What if your team is made up of top performers who hate to fail and love to excel? Here’s what one team of effective communicators focuses on when it comes to practicing and profiting from good communication skills…

◊ The key is motivation, motivating everyone to be the very best they can be.

◊ Understand that the success of the person relates to the success of the company…and vice versa.

◊ The success of the company is directly related to the effort of the individual.

◊ Our leadership wants everyone to be involved and committed to the team approach.

◊ We’re getting there, but there still is a lot of work to be done…we need to openly share ideas as a group.

◊ Company objectives are clear…we don’t want people who have the best ideas to shy away, because implementation of new ideas leads to greater success.

◊ What’s the best way to achieve the objectives? Solve problems as a team

◊ It’s not your problem — it’s our problem. We’re problem solving from a team perspective rather than from an individual perspective.

◊ Stronger personalities won’t point the finger — all personalities around the communicator table will give positive input.

◊ We will not be afraid of failure. We are correcting issues…not correcting people (that’s communication).

◊ It’s not that I don’t like you….I don’t like problems that go uncorrected.

◊ Don’t make people the issue.…Make solving the problem the issue.

◊ Different people drive certain things, but everyone needs to be a driver.

◊ Don’t wait for someone else to get something done — if you see something that’s not being done, take it upon yourself to see that it happens.

◊ We are a whole group of drivers, reaping huge benefits as a team.

◊ If we focus on these areas of change, we will make huge gains.

◊ We work for each other.

◊ Everyone will be working equally hard, together, to produce significant success.

◊ We don’t believe in empire building and clicks….We are one group trying to achieve the same thing.

◊ “I didn’t get it done because they didn’t make it happen…” is not being accountable.

◊ We’ve made big strides, but we can continuously get better.

◊ Our company succeeds when we give you a communication comfort level to express your new ideas without fear.

Dr. Dennis O’Grady is a relationship psychologist and developer of the management communication training system called TALK2ME. Dennis can be reached at 937-428-0724.

Get busy teaming!

What factor – inspired by good communication – is response-able for TEAM UNITY in your book? Is it “Honesty is the best policy?” or “What goes around comes around?” or “Treat stress like water off a duck’s back?” Here’s what the communication team brainstormed in class not long ago:

Top ten ways to build a positive atmosphere of communication:

1.    Have a good plan

2.    Make your “to do” list #1

3.    Motivate by using a good mood

4.    When what you’re doing isn’t working out, take new steps

5.    Take a step back and accept when your personal communication power has been compromised by emotion

6.    Believe in yourself even when others act in disapproving, manipulative, or selfish ways

7.    Project strength: Don’t allow emotions to sidetrack forward progress to your goal

8.    Speak OUT…Listen UP…Seek out TEAM UNITY

9.    Show disapproval for negative actions

10.    Show approval for positive actions

Are you doing what works? Do you gripe and worry, too much of the time? Now lighten up! Do something new from the Top Ten List above, instead of circling the drain of depression.

Dennis O’Grady, PsyD, is a Dayton clinical psychologist and corporate trainer who teaches powerful new communication tools using the TALK2ME© system. Reach Dr. O’Grady at 937-428-0724 or at www.drogrady.com.