Posts in category: POSITIVE ATTITUDE

Independence Day is known for colorful aerial fireworks across the USA, but did you know this is the day to declare and celebrate the freedom and responsibility to be true to yourself, too? For example, do you say what you want to say…or do you tell people only what they want to hear? Find out by absorbing the relationship communication freedoms listed below:

I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO
Heal any hurt that befalls me.

I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO
Hold my own opinions.

I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO
Say hello to new people.

I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO
See a future of health for me.

I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO
Buy into new behaviors on my own behalf.

I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO
Say good-bye and let go.

I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO
Be emotionally honest.

I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO
Grow and change to suit my needs.

I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO
Like and love myself.

I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO
Feel hopeful during despairing times.

I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO
Persevere during imperfect times of unwanted changes.

I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO
Learn something new from old frustrations.

I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO
Laugh deeply.

I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO
Weep completely.

I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO
Accept reality as it happens to be.

I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO
Set aside unwanted habits.

I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO
Correct weaknesses.

I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO
Begin again.

I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO
Finish the race with a strong heart and head.

I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO
Have the courage to be who I am.

I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO
Accept myself today just as I am.

I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO
Be me!

BEING RESPONSIVE VS. BEING REACTIVE
To some extent, you get to choose how you respond to life’s downs and ups. Do you feel free to use these freedoms (and more) today and every day?

Get an earful and a mind-full of these interpersonal communication freedoms and assertiveness talk tactics each and every day by coming to this Web site. The ultimate freedom is the freedom to exchange your interpersonal communication weaknesses for positive talk talents and strengths.

In fact, you can go from being a “good” communicator to a “great” communicator in slow and steady ways by using the communicator “roadmap” in TALK TO ME.

Dr. Dennis O’Grady is a communications psychologist from Dayton, Ohio, USA, and the author of TALK TO ME: Communication Moves to Get Along with Anyone. Dennis believes a new era has awakened in our co-independent decision to use positive communication tools to create useful and effective work, family, couple and relationship changes at all levels in our world society. And the inspiration for this article came from Dr. Stephen R. Covey‘s book “The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness.” About the importance of being true to who you really are, Dr. Covey writes: “There is a deep, innate, almost inexpressible yearning within each one of us to find our voice in life.”

Personal success derives from the momentum of boosting your confidence when you feel bummed out. Rest on your laurels for awhile to celebrate your victories and ease your defeats, but then get right back up and keep on changing to enjoy the sweet taste of victory again.

12 Self-Esteem Rights to Keep You Pumped Up

Create the kind of life you want! You can quickly translate depressive thoughts and anxious feelings into confidence by using these practical actions that are guaranteed to boost m/your confidence and juice y/our positive attitude:

1. To nurture my strengths and unique talents.

2. To reinforce myself for small positive changes.

3. To love myself even when others react in disapproving ways.

4. To make new choices which are good for me.

5. To improve my self-worth by setting goals.

6. To use gold advice to grow.

7. To live my own life free of resentment.

8. To change myself even when everything is going well.

9. To start pleasing myself more.

10. To take positive action in spite of fears that make me feel undesirable.

11. To use all of my feelings constructively including anger.

12. To have my changes noticed and stroked by loved ones.

Low self-esteem is a powerful state of the anxious mind. It can influence your mood, shyness or outgoingness, how you shake hands or speak up, public speaking anxiety…even how willing you are to reach out and take healthy risks in your personal or business life.

Low self-esteem is corrected by challenging the negative belief that you are a victim who can’t do anything productive or right to change your life. Now you know that your life IS in your control, when you use any one of the “12 Self-Esteem Rights” listed above right now.

When I’m frustrated…I pick one of the 12 Self-Esteem Rights to focus on as I travel through my day to slay low or manic self-esteem moods. IT works like a charm!

Dr. Dennis O’Grady is a clinical psychologist and communications coach from Dayton, Ohio, USA. His new communication theory of Empathizer (E-type) vs. Instigator (I-type) communicators is featured in his newly released book TALK TO ME. In Dr. O’Grady’s clinical studies, Empathizer communicators tend to struggle with low self-esteem (LSE), while Instigator communicators struggle with excessive self-esteem (ESE).

Did you know that key words in the spoken language you commonly use are “command words” that energize your mind to faithfully comply with hidden instructions? Yep. It’s true, and there’s nothing crazy about it. These “broadcast commands/words” use “code words” that include UNTIL… BUT… SHOULD… HARD… NOT… IT’S… YOU’RE… just to name seven. Your mind delivers what you instruct it to, so if you don’t pay attention to what you’re saying, you can end up where you don’t want to go!

The purpose of CommTool #8: NOW HEAR THIS MY DEAR MIND! is to disrupt the “programming” that tells your mind and emotions where they ought to go, with or without your conscious consent. As you implement this tool, you will become more aware and in-charge of your mood…way TOO cool.

Willie Nelson plays “the angel’s advocate” because he shows us all that although it’s far easier to be negative…it’s by far more productive to be a positive person. I don’t care if you love or loathe country music…Willie Nelson is a positive thinker, a positive talker, a positive doer and an all-around positive guy who has a bunch of friends from all over the world. “W” knows that ya’ can’t afford no negative thoughts. “I’m crazy for you,” Willie Nelson!

Even after the loss of a beloved son and the gain of the IRS, Willie “dares to care” and calls the stage “home.” He sings positive songs to m/y/our brain. He has “amazing grace.” Indeed, the “outlaw” decided to “grow up to be a cowboy” in spite of what his mama said. Willie plays his well-worn guitar “Trigger”… has great hair for a 70-year-old troubadour…claims to occasionally burn up with road rage…drives cars and trucks that run smoothly on soybean biofuel. Yup, Willie is a guy who works hard to have a positive life in spite of the crap life deals out to him.

Are you putting off feeling happy UNTIL your lucky stars are aligned just right in your life sky? Not a good idea. Trying to pin the tail of your happiness on the stress donkey will make you into a mule of unhappiness who feels like a beast of burden.

Here’s how the happiness-deadening word “UNTIL” tricks you into believing illogically that, “I can’t enjoy life UNTIL…

UNTIL all this stress is settled…I can’t relax.

UNTIL I know what’s going to happen…I’ll stay uptight and be worried.

UNTIL this rough week is finally over…I’ll be pressured, sleep fitfully and feel fretful.