Posts in category: POSITIVE ATTITUDE

Manage Your Self-Esteem or Stress Events Will
Communication Rules: Waiting to rake in the big haul while you stall doing the small? Go figure: Make your “to do” list into a “DO(NE)” list.

Refuse to be beguiled or seduced by “ALL OR NONE” extremist thinking that keeps your achievable dreams grounded. Success results from small positive actions taking flight in spite of fears that seek to stall you out in mid-air.

Talk Sense to Yourself: Tease yourself: “Anything worth doing is worth doing imperfectly!” Or ease yourself: “Little changes net huge rewards.” Or spiritualize: “Life is loving to learn..and learning to love.” Pump up your attitude using any upbeat idea!

Motivational speaker Zig Ziglar at http://www.zigziglar.com/ correctly says attitude is directly related to success altitude…SO why NOT be at your top cruising speed today? Likewise, time management black belt Brian Tracy at http://www.briantracy.com/ expertly describes how you CAN get up and go in the direction that your GOALS point you in. SO why NOT do something small today to pump up your attitude in a big way?

Talk sense to yourself whenever you feel knocked senseless by a street talking fighter…namely, YOURSELF.

“The only person I can change is myself!”
Are you feeding your mind enlivening inspirational sayings every day to keep you growing and changing during your challenging week? Talking about theories of change and communication are one thing–talking sense to yourself during the day is quite another.

Communication Rules: Exasperated with perfectionist procrastinators, dull drivers or people slapping you in the face with their bad mood? Oh my now, don’t you know others can’t frustrate you without your complicity BECAUSE you frustrate yourself more than anyone else ever can or will…which is as it should be? Bingo.

Talk Sense to Yourself: How to get a grip on grousing and griping about why others won’t change their habitual patterns to make your life smoother sailing? When impatient say: “The only person I can change is myself!” Or, “Here’s another golden opportunity to realize I don’t run the universe!” Or, “The more I control, the less satisfied I feel and the less effective I am in all my relationships…including with myself.”

Four minutes a day is all it takes to absorb new insights that improve your mood. You don’t have enough time? You don’t have time NOT to.

Good brain food is everywhere…and right at your finger tips. Check out books to change your life at www.impactpublishers.com or ideas to manage your relationship mood at www.rebuilding.org.

People Can Change…Can’t They?
Members of my change management seminar audiences often ask how to know the difference between when you should change…and when you should continue doing things the way you’ve been doing them. One answer is to create a circle of advisers for yourself-people whom you trust and with whom you can double-check your thinking.

I am also a firm believer in brief counseling or change consulting. You’re NOT crazy if you hire a neutral (outside your work/family) consultant, such as a communications psychologist, psychiatrist, counselor or social worker, to be part of your inner circle of advisers. In fact, you would be sane and smart. People need advice from experts in change and changing behavior.

Ask three people who aren’t afraid to give you blunt, accurate, timely feedback. You want to be surrounded by people who are interested in your changes, not in keeping things the way they’ve always been.

Another step you can take is to begin to value your relationships more. Friendship and romance are powerful ways to promote positive change. And lastly, you can take advantage of the self-help groups or blogs that are available on the internet.

“TALKING IT” douses the fire of your potentials, as in: “IT worries me…IT doesn’t work…IT really ticked me off…IT is depressing…IT won’t work for me…IT isn’t fair…IT just happens over and over to me!”

“STOP TALKING IT!”

“IT” talk unplugs your power source to change AND feel satisfied or happy with where you are.

Talk Sense to Yourself: Feed your mind fun truths like: “Hey, no one has ever died of a positive attitude!” “I’ll keep my nose to the grin(d)stone!” “Thanks but I’ll stick to ticking myself off if you please!” “Thanks BUT I don’t need your help in depressing me!” “Change is GOOD and my middle name is change!” “Sure, life’s hard BUT then you fly!” “Communication is not a monologue but a dialogue!” “The only thing we can change is ourselves!” “The harder we try to control…the behinder we get!”

My favorite self-talk saying today: “Hey, no one has ever died of a positive attitude!”

Sure, although it’s easier to be glum and numb than positive…why not have some fun talking UP to yourself when you’re talking trash? You may not be able to fix people…BUT you can fix problems.

Recall always that “If at first you don’t succeed…try, try something DIFFERENT!

You Don’t Need To Get A Grip
You don’t need to get a grip. You need to let loose of self-chatter that slaps you down until you drown in self-pity.

Why make things worse when your mood sucks pears by talking to yourself about how bad things are and will be? Aren’t things rough and tough enough without playing the same scratchy worry record?

Mood talk: so what to do when your feelings run amok? What do you say to yourself when your feelings are pushing you hard to behave inappropriately? Remember this formula: Bad mood…blame cycle…negatively talking to yourself and others. Why shred your self-esteem and your good character in ineffective ways that cause problems instead of solve them? You get the point, I know.

1. Whenever your inner chatter riles you, forcefully say: “Change the subject!”

2. Whenever you groan in agitation like Eeeyore the donkey, assertively say: “Change the subject!”

3. Whenever you grump about why somebody else won’t change, doggedly say: “Change the subject!”

In these ways you will prove to yourself that you DO have the power to change the mood channel by saying: “Change the subject!”

Play it one more time; Sigmund Freud, Oprah Winfrey and Dr. Phil McGraw. So when your mood sucks pears…change the mood channel…by forcefully saying: “Change the subject!”

Who knows, you may end up feeling more compassionate toward yourself (and others) for a change of heart and mind TODAY.